There's a beginning to every journey

Sat, 09 Sep 2006 22:50:08 GMT

And nothing happened ever since.

I have to admit that I miss having my sub. I aslo hate that thought that has been lingering in my mind : he doesn't need me. Which i thought he did. I thought we shared something special. And maybe we did, but I thought it was more special. I know it was for me.

I'm not looking for anyone to replace him at present time. I don't feel comfortable, and I doubt my abilities as a Dom, or just as a partner.

I hate it that someone can have this effect on me, and treat me with such disdain.

Wait till I'm combative again, and some people will pay.

Rights as a submissive

Tue, 15 Aug 2006 20:04:39 GMT

I came across this text, which I think is beautiful.

Rights as a Submissive
by TheScreamer

I have the right to set limits, and expect them to be respected. I have the right to adjust these limits at any time, with notice to you. I have the right to expect you to push them, to force me to create new limits and boundaries.

I have the right to privacy. I expect you to be concerned about time we spend apart, but I expect you to understand that I am a person, separate from you, and thusly having problems and situations in my life that I will not need your help with. I have the right to expect you will respect me for my independence and not criticize me for it. I have the right to ask you for help, should I need it. I have the right to be trusted, providing I have earned it, and I have the right to expect you to believe I am an intelligent, caring and loyal person.

I have the right to ask things of you, and have you listen to my requests. I have the right to ask for your attention, without having to misbehave to get it. I have the right to ask you to contribute as much to this relationship as I do. As long as my requests are submitted respectfully, I expect you to consider them as you would from any friend or colleague. I have the right to question your motives, should you deny my requests, as long as I do so with the proper respect.

I have the right to expect you to administer punishment with care and caution. I have the right to use my safewords at any point, should I feel them necessary. I have the right to get up and walk away from a scene if you have crossed the line. I have the right to expect you to respect my decisions, and not think less of me, or abandon me for them.

I have the right to speak up if I feel our relationship is not giving me what I need. I have the right to tell you what I need, in a respectful manner. I have the right to expect you to understand my reasons for doing so, and the right to expect you to listen with an open mind. I have the right to walk away from the relationship if we cannot come to a common ground on these issues.

I have the right to expect tenderness, love and understanding after a scene is completed, should it be what I desire. I have the right to ask you for that tenderness if I've had a bad day, or if I just feel the need for closeness. I understand that there will be times when you and I will disagree about this -- when you will want a scene, and I will not. I have the right to call for a talk about this, and to expect you to listen to and consider my reasonings. I expect you to have the final word, but I expect you to wholeheartedly consider my feelings, whatever they may happen to be.

I have the right to expect our relationship to progress, for trust to continually be renewed, for our souls to be as close as our bodies are. I have the right to tell you if I need more from you, and I expect you to respect my decisions about what I want and need. I expect you to want the relationship to progress, unless decided otherwise beforehand. I expect you to understand that deep trust often breeds love, and I expect you not to repel me if I tell you that I love you. For I will love you, my master, should our relationship move ahead, should our trust continue to grow.

I have the right to expect you to tell me, at any point, if you do not feel you can return those feelings, so that I may decide what I want and need. For it is your pleasure that adds to my own, makes it real. And mine, that adds to yours.

Tue, 15 Aug 2006 11:52:34 GMT

How can you be with a person whose reliability is questionnable...

Building up any relationship is based on trust. Anything else is just ,well, purely conveniences really. Cause when you trust someone, everything flows more naturally. no?

And when you are as insecure, and let's say sometimes as paranoiac (based on previous experiences) as I am, any little thing can literally send you off the hedge, while with a "normal" person, it's usually not a big deal.

I sometimes think I am too demanding on people around me, but the only thing I demand, really, is that damn trust.
I want to trust them to trust me enough to tell me things as they are, and not either hide them, or make stupid and pityful attemps to cover them up.

Why do they never do it? Why do I always have to find out (not even while looking for it) that they've hidden from me something important that does concern me?

Where to start?

Fri, 04 Aug 2006 09:23:32 GMT

We had some nice time together, except for the fact that I knew it would be over the minute I'd go.
Still, what we did was nice. I used some japanese bondage things I learned online. (oh joy), then had him beg for me.
I instructed him in the best way to please me, and he went beyond my expectations. Bed shattering O...
Yay for that. Not yay at all for him bragging about it though. I understand that he was so proud for pleasing me that he needed to make it known.
I made him write a few more rules, and ask for forginveness.
We took some walks in the neighborhood, and I tied his hands behind his back. My little pet.
Either way, I don't know where to stand, but I find some sort of relief in knowing that this is just a game to him, and nothing serious.
At least, that point has been established. No need to have high hopes anymore.

I am mad

Thu, 27 Jul 2006 07:58:31 GMT

Mad at "him" because he doesn't seem to realize that this whole thing is serious.
Is he my sub? yes, at least he seems to behave as such. Wich really is the problem : he only "seems".

Whenever I approach the subject, he's all sweet and cooperative, and then I learn he did things that I forbade him to do (namely have another relationship). He makes the whole thing seem pointless, and not worth it.

He doesn't seem to care.
I'll see him tonight, and he'll have to explain himself. As sad as it is, because I consider this as something worth it, and that could give us great pleasure, it might be the last time I'll see him.

I won't let him go down that path.

stealing things

Tue, 25 Jul 2006 23:52:39 GMT

HUMOUR: You Might Be Submissive If..
If you hear the term "House Whip" on CNN and then get disappointed that they're talking about politics.

If a friend of yours tells you she can't get out of the house because she's all tied up....and you get jealous.

If stocks and bonds fascinate you, but you could care less what happens on Wall Street.

If you find yourself lying about your birthday just to get in an Extra spanking or two during the course of a year.

If, deep in your mind, you think of tic-tac-toe as a game being Played between the X's and The Story of O's.

If you hear a confused person say, "Beat me!" and you automatically yell out "Me next!,".

If you actually wish your Mastercard would give you orders.

If you think that the three basic materials for bed sheets are linen, silk and leather.

If you call your personal vibrator "Sir,”.

If you think your panties look best on you when pulled down around your knees.

If you see a road sign displaying, "Chains required" and wonder if that means, whips are optional.

If you read a headline about sub warfare, and picture two naked women cat-fighting over a cute Dom.

If you dream of a beautiful leather jacket with a full face hood.

joke

Tue, 25 Jul 2006 23:50:37 GMT

10 How was I supposed to know I wasn't supposed to put your leather pants in the washer?

9 Yeah, right... SPANK THIS!

8 Tomorrow night, I get to tie you up, right?

7 God, you Dom's think the world should bow before you!

6 And just what do you think you are going to do with that paddle?

5 Sorry, I got a date tomorrow night. Some other time, perhaps?

4 Spanking? I-THINK-NOT!

3 Who died and left you in charge?

2 Do your own damn laundry!

And the #1 thing you will never hear a sub say to their Master...

What do I look like, your maid?

I had a friend..

Tue, 25 Jul 2006 23:25:28 GMT

I met a friend a year ago.
I''ve had a kinky partner ever since.
And now, he's my sub.

I expected a lot more from him than just being a kinky partner, and reacted really bad to some of the things he did. Our d/s relationship has really taken a start from this point. I told him there were things we needed to discuss, and he immediately turned in this very submissive behavior. So I kinda "exploited" that.

I've been giving him some assignments. The first one was to write a letter of apologies, which I received in my mail box the very next morning. Then I made him write on a notebook some rules. Whenever I (or he) think of one, it has to be written down, after we both came to an agreement. Some of the rules can be discussed, some just can't, and any breaking of those on his part would be the end of any further relationship. I think I made that clear. As I did that every "wrong" behavior against which he has been warned will result in punishment.

So far (granted, it's only been a week), he has behaved really well, completing his assignments on schedule, and responding very well to every new step we take.

It's my first D/s (and maybe the last) relationship, and I'm very interested in exploring it. In a way it's kind of scary. As time goes by I realize I'm taking the ascendant on him, I'm molding him. It's consensual, evidently, but I'm starting to envision the responsibilities of being a dom to someone.
We are both switches, but I'm a lot more dominant than he is. I think that it's going to be harder and harder to switch, as we'll both fall into our respective roles.

I'm seeing him in two days (we don't even live in the same country!), and his training will take a more physical turn.
There are things that I've always wanted my partners to do (not necessarily kinky things), and it usually took some time, or even the right moment, for me to have those things.
Now, I only have to ask, and reward. There are many more things to it, but in the whole, I find D/s more rapidly rewarding than vanilla relationships.

Thu, 20 Jul 2006 23:17:29 GMT

I remember reading an article about a book that went like : don't ever let this book fall into the hands of your male sub..
Problem is, I can't remember the title of that book.
After some online searching, I came along this and this. Anyone has advices on any of those books (or others)? I'm pretty new to the whole concept, and I would like to do things right -not that *he* ever compained but-...

great link

Tue, 11 Jul 2006 11:51:00 GMT

http://www.thrallos.org/index.php

Mon, 26 Jun 2006 22:38:32 GMT

For each item, you need to provide two answers: For experience, write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.

Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender. For willingness, indicate for each item how you feel about DOING that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5.
"?" means you don't understand what the item is attempting to describe.
NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).
0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would permit the Dominant to do it if it they really wanted it. (Sometimes called a "soft limit").
1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you.
2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.
3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.
4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.
5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible. Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with your current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners. Note any additional information or nuances, which might be important for your Dom to know in the margin to the right. For example under diapers you might wish to distinguish between "wetting" and "soiling".
There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient/target of the activity.

Anal plug (public, under clothes) -N 0 -
Anal plugs (large) -N 0 -
Anal plugs (small) Y- 1-
Animal roles - N1-
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders) - "?"
Aromas - Y 3 - if it's not too strong, cause then I'll sneeze. scented candles and massage oils are good
Asphyxiation - N NO - no no no no no no no
Auctioned for charity - N 1- mainly because I have a very low self esteem and would be really sad if the outcomes were as bad as I think they would be.
Ball stretching - 0 - N
Bathroom use control - N 0 -
Beastiality - N "?"
Beating (hard) -N no -
Beating (soft) - N 2 - describe soft in term of beating?
Being bitten Y- 1.
Being serviced (sexual) -Y 4 -
Blindfolds - Y4 - when I trust my partner and know that the next sensation won't be.. how could I describe it? I don't want it to be harsh, like a spanking or something.
Bondage (heavy) - N2.5 - I can use a 2.5 right?
Bondage (light) -Y 4 -
Bondage (multi-day) -N 1
Bondage (public, under clothing) -N3
Boot worship N- 1 -
Branding N- NO -
Breast/chest bondage -N 2
Breath control - N NO -
Brown showers (scat) - N NO - no no no no no
Bruises -Y 0
Cages (locked inside of) -N 1
Caning -N 1 -
Castration fantasy -N "?"-
Catheterization - N NO - i
Cattle prod (electrical toy) -N no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of) N- 3
Chains -N 3 -
Chamber-pot use N - NO -
Chastity belts (multi-day) - N 0 -
Chastity belts (short term) -N 2 -
Chauffeuring (driving) - N 3
Choking - N NO -
Chores (domestic service) - Y 1- I do them naturally. they are no chores for me.
ClothespinsN - 0
Cock rings/straps -N 0
Cock worship - Y 5 -
Collars (worn in private) - N 4
Collars (worn in public) - N 1
Competitions (with other Subs) N - 0-
Corsets (trained waist reduction) - N NO -
Corsets (wearing casually) - N 0 -
Cross-dressing - Y 4- I already wear male clothes 80% of the time
Cuffs (leather) - Y 4 -
Cuffs (metal) -Y 1
Cutting - N NO -
Diapers (soiling) - N NO -
Diapers (wearing) -N NO -
Diapers (wetting) -N NO -
Dilation -N NO -
Double penetration -Y double... hmmm. 4,5. depends who, what, where.
Electricity - N no- (unless you are referring to vibrators)
Enemas (for cleansing) -N NO -
Enemas (retention/punishment) - N NO -
Enforced chastity - N 1 - .
Erotic dance (for audience) - N 3
Examinations (physical) N -0
Exercise (forced/required) -N 2
Exhibitionism (friends) - N no - private is private
Exhibitionism (strangers) N - 0
Eye contact restrictions N - 2 -
Face slapping - N no -
Fantasy abandonment -N 3 -
Fantasy gang-rape N - 1-
Fantasy rape -N 2 -
Fear (being scared) -N 2 -
Fisting (anal) -N NO -
Flame play - N 0 -
Following orders - N 2 -
Food play (cucumbers, sorbet...) - Y 4 -
Foot worship -N 1 - .
Forced bedwetting - N NO -
Forced dressing - "?"
Forced eating -N 0 -
Forced heterosexuality - N 4 -
Forced homosexuality N - 2 -
Forced masturbation -N 1 -
Forced nudity (around others) - N no
Forced nudity (private) N - 1 -
Forced servitude -N 1 -
Forced smoking -N 0 -
Full head hoods - N 2 -
Gags (ball) - N 0. I have a very powerful gag reflex, it's very hard for me to keep something in my mouth for extended amount of time.
Gags (cloth) - Y 1 - .
Gags (inflatable) - N no- mainly cause I' m afraid I'd choke
Gags (phallic) - N no - as above. no, sucking is different, it comes in and out.
Gags (rubber) -N 0-
Gags (tape) - N 0
Gas masks - N 0 -
Gates of Hell (male) - NA
Given away to another Dom (perm) -N no
Given away to another Dom (temp) -N no
Golden showers -N NO -
Gun play -N 3 -
Hair pulling - Y 2 - .
Hairbrush spankings - N 0
Hand jobs (giving) -Y 5 -
Hand jobs (receiving) -Y 5-
Harems (serving w/other subs) -N 0-
Harnessing (leather) - N 3
Harnessing (rope) -N 3
Having clothing chosen for you - Y 4
Having food chosen for you -Y 4
Head (give fellatio/cunnilingus) - Y 5 -
Head (recv fellatio/cunnilingus) - Y 4-
High heel wearing - Y 1
High heel worship - N 0
Homage with tongue (non-sexual) Y- 4 -
Hoods - N 1
Hot oils (on genitals) -N NO
Hot waxing - N 0 -
Housework (doing) - Y No problem with that. see somewhere above.
Human puppy dog -N 2
Humiliation (private) - N 0
Humiliation (public) -N no
Hypnotism -N 1
Ice cubes Y- 2 -
Immobilization - Y 3 -
Including others N- 1
Infantilism - N NO -
Initiation rites -N no
Injections - N NO -
Interrogations - "?"
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage N - 3 -
Kidnaping - N 3 - .
Kneeling - Y2
Knife play - N NO -
Leather clothing -N 0 -
Leather restraints - Y 5 -
Lectures for misbehavior - N 1 -
Licking (non-sexual) - Y 4 - .
Lingerie (wearing) -Y4
Manacles & Irons - "?"
Manicures (giving) -Y 3
Massage (giving) - Y 5
Massage (receiving) -Y 5
Medical scenes - N 0
Modeling for erotic photos - N 2. I don't like my body.
Mouth bits - "?",
Mummification - N meaning you want to kill me and remove my organs and put me in a wooden box? no.
Name change (for scene) -N 1
Name change (legal, permanent) -N 0 -
Nipple clamps N -no
Nipple play/"torture" -N no
Nipple rings (piercings) - N NO -
Nipple weights - N NO -
Oral/anal play (rimming) -N 0-
Orgasm control - N 1
Orgasm denial -N 1.
Outdoor scenes - Y 4 -
Outdoor sex - Y 4 - .
Over-the-knee spanking - N 1
Pain (medium) - N 0
-Pain (mild) -N 1 -
Pain (severe) -N NO -
Personality modification (RL) - N 0.can always give it a try..
Phone sex (commercial provider) - N 2 -
Phone sex (serving Dom) -Y 2 -
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends) -N 0
Piercing (permanent) - N NO - no piercings!
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce) -N NO -
Plastic surgery - N NO -
Pony slave - N 0 ...
Prison scenes - N 1
Prostitution (actual) - 0
Prostitution (public pretense) - "?"
Public exposure -N 0
Punishment Scene - N 1
Pussy worship - NA
Pussy/cock whipping - N 0
Restrictive rules on behavior -N 1
Riding crops -"?"
Rope body harness - N 3 -
Rubber/latex clothing -N 0 -
Saran wrapping - "?"
Scarification -N NO -
Scratching - getting - N 0 -
Scratching - giving -N 0 - .
Sensory deprivation - N 2
Serving - Y 2 -it's in my nature.
Serving as a maid N-0.
Serving as art -N 2.
Serving as ashtray - N NO -
Serving as furniture - N 1.
Serving as toilet (feces) - N NO - .
Serving as toilet (urine) - N NO - .
Serving as waitress/waiter -N 0
Serving orally (sexual) -Y 4
Serving other doms (supervised) N- 1
Serving other doms (unsupervised) N-0.
Sexual deprivation (long term) -N 0-
Sexual deprivation (short term) N-1
Shaving (body hair) Y- 1 -
Shaving (genital hair) - Y 2 -
Shaving (head hair) - N 1-
Skinny-dipping - Y 4
Sleep deprivation - N no
Sleepsacks - "?"
Slutty clothing (private) -N 4
Slutty clothing (public) - N 1
Spandex clothing - "?"
Spanking -N 1
Speculums (Anal) - N NO -
Speech restrictions (when, what) - N 1
Spitting -N NO -
Spreader bars - N 4 -
Standing in corner -N 1
Stocks - "?"
Straight jackets -"?".
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by) -N 3
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on) - N 1
Strapping (full body beating) - N NO -
Supplying new partners for Dom -N 0.
Suspension (horizontal) - N 2
Suspension (inverted) - N 1
Suspension (upright) - N 2
Swallowing feces - N NO -
Swallowing semen -Y 4
Swallowing urine - N NO
Swapping (with one other couple) - N 2
Swinging (multiple couples) - N 1
Tattooing - N 2 been thinking of having one "one of these days"
Teasing - Y 5
TENS Unit (electrical toy) - N no
Thumbcuffs (metal) - N 2
Tickling - Y 3
Uniforms - N 3
Urethral Sounds (metal rods) -N NO -
Verbal humiliation -N 0 -
Vibrator on genitals - Y 3 -
Video (recordings of you) - Y 5 -
Video (watching others) - N 5
Violet Wand (electrical toy) - N no
Voyeurism (watching others) -N 3 -
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others) - N 0
Water torture - "?"
Waxing (hair removal) -N 2 -
Wearing symbolic jewelry -N 3
Weight gain or loss (forced) -N 1. though gain would be quite unhealthy. fat enough as it is.
Whipping - N 0
Wooden paddles - N 1
Wrestling -Y 2 -

Sat, 10 Jun 2006 16:12:33 GMT

My Twenty Relationship Guidelines by:
(©2005 or earlier) Allena Gabosch
Executive Director
The Wet Spot
Seattle's Sex Positive Community Center
wetspot.org

No surprises are allowed – (except surprise parties and scenes and gifts and cards and that kind of fun stuff).
Make clear agreements on what each person is supposed to do.
Each person should be clear about their intentions.
Each person should be clear about their expectations of the other.
No secrets or secret agendas are allowed.
Find ways to be genuinely supportive and uplifting toward one another, especially when times are tough.
Keep a sense of humor when working out differences of opinion.
If one loses their sense of humor, the other should be forgiving.
If one gets out of line, the other should be firm but forgiving, and the one out of line should acknowledge the infraction when it is pointed out.
Nagging is only allowed if done with humor and goodwill.
Never complain to a third party in place of dealing with the primary person directly.
When disagreeing, both sides must listen to the other intently.
When disagreeing, interruptions, raised voices, angry movements and demeaning language are illegal and must be apologized for when they are pointed out.
Apologies for interruptions, raised voices, angry movements and demeaning language during disagreements must be accepted.
When disagreeing, neither person is allowed to say "I already told you such and such" – they have to patiently repeat themselves.
When disagreeing, neither person is allowed to accuse the other of starting the argument or creating the disagreement.
If one has bad feelings about the other during or after a disagreement they are not allowed to blame the other for these bad feelings.
Past disagreements are not valid issues during a current disagreement – no "generalizing" and no "bringing up the past" is allowed.
Short breaks from arguments are allowed but when possible, disputes should be resolved on the same day they begin.
If a departure is necessary during a disagreement it must be cordial and considerate.

Sat, 10 Jun 2006 15:34:13 GMT

I think I've managed to turn someone into a crazed sex maniac or something. Which, in a way, is good.
I am like this, I dislike people who claim that they don't like something while they haven't tried it... with me. Specially when it comes to sex.

Sex is supposed to be good you know? it's supposed to wipe you off your feet, to leave you panting and breath taken...
He has always considered sex as, a convenience. Something that is "blah" will seldom end up with an orgasm for him, something he gets bored with pretty quickly. And by pretty quickly I mean before the end of "normal" intecrouse.
We've already fooled around had sex couple of times, and it was very good for me, and good for him. He did came, but wasn't that willing to reinterate the experience on a regular basis.

Over the last couple of days, it has become very very good for him.
And why wouldn't it have been?
So yes, I'm proud. What I need now is more time to turn him into someone who can please me the exact way I want, whom I don't need to coach (although that part is quite fun too). Something to look forward too.

Sun, 09 Apr 2006 09:13:58 GMT

Playing with Geisha balls is certainly not the excuse I was going to give my boss for being late to work this morning.. :)
But man was that a good reason !

Lately

Sat, 31 Dec 2005 00:49:50 GMT

Two opposite desires. Oh, the joy of swirling between vanilla and switch life !
I want to be loved and cuddled and cherished in a vanilla way.
I also want to grab someone, tie him to the bed.. and fuck him senseless... I rule here.

Hmmm. I'm horny, horny horny horny tonight..

Thu, 15 Dec 2005 00:31:45 GMT

He thinks he's the only man who got me to climax twice in a row.
I faked. He never gave me one orgasm during all the time we've been dating.
He'll never know.

question to self

Mon, 07 Nov 2005 22:40:11 GMT

I have been wondering.. Am I into bdsm because I was with someone who was into it? is it really a lifestyle? I mean, something you consider vital in a relationship?
I have found myself being a dom, a sub, and a vanilla like person.
How many different personalities do I have, for God's sake?

cum...

Sun, 23 Oct 2005 09:22:18 GMT

Yeah, right.
There is something really weird about being with a guy who has fingered you for a couple of minutes, and just tells you "cum, cum ".. like what, this is like a push a button thing and I'll cum automatically?
silly !

How it all begun

Sun, 25 Sep 2005 20:55:34 GMT

Thinking back to it, I think I've always been more on the dominant side. I'm the one people came to for advice, people trusted. The first "sub" I got was a kid, as I was at that time. Our story lasted about10 years, until one day I acted a bit too dominant with him. I didn't realize it at this time, of course. Only that after that things got different. He slowly detached himself from me, but still loved me nonetheless .

He wasn't very strong, or the smartest pupil of the class.

I only realized too late that his goal wasn't to have the best grades, or beat the other pupils to impress me. His only goal was to love me, be there for me, support me, "serve" me. I think that this first relationship molded the others, and made me afraid to fully live as a dom. For that day, I've tended to act more like a sub because I was afraid that by being a dom, I would hurt people. I guess that this is what books and trainings are for, but I didn't know that at that time.

Switch switch switch

Wed, 21 Sep 2005 11:21:30 GMT

I'm not totally dom. In fact, sometimes I like to relinquish control to someone. I like to experience new things, and some of them just won't happen if I'm in the dom's position, whether I allow and ask a sub to perform things on me, or not.

Such a switch happened yesterday night. Even though it was only over the net, it was pretty intense. I can't wait to do it in RL.

Sweet surrender

Tue, 20 Sep 2005 21:50:58 GMT

Or pushing the limits?
I have never been in a "real" d/s relationship. Even though I know what the other wants or likes, I always wonder whether I can push the limits, which is acceptable since I'm the dom here, and in charge of the well being of my "pet", or if I have to totally respect his desires. I can't violate his trust.

Who's in control, really?

Tue, 20 Sep 2005 21:23:56 GMT

The sub because by being so, he gets what he wants at the end?
Me because I dominate him, and ultimately get what I want?
I guess it's all consensual, really.

I'm not entirely sure I'm a 100% dom though. I can be pretty submissive under the right circumstances, but I've had this controlling attitude looked up inside me forever. However, people who can just switch side as easily as I do seem to be quite rare.